Give Up Control To Attract More Women Into Your Life

I’ve noticed something about a lot of dating instructors who teach guys questionable methods to meet and date women:  They teach control.

 

What do I mean by that?  Simply, they want guys to believe that the way to make things happen with a woman is to control every situation.  For example, many instructors teach guys how to get a girl’s phone number… and they teach guys to get it as fast as possible. 

 

That’s wrong-headed thinking.

 

Because at the end of the day, the sexually desirable guy that just lets things happen may get less numbers but ends up with four times as many women… and the connection that he has with these women is extremely hot.

 

In fact, I teach guys not to get numbers, but rather to build such a sexually charged connection during the interaction that she can’t help but give you her number without your even asking for it.  This goes against conventional wisdom because there is a misguided belief that getting a number is the same as generating a sexually charged connection. 

 

Conventional wisdom also says that women do not call guys.  But I know for a fact that if you present yourself as a sexually desirable guy who has a “magnetic mindset”, you can give your number to a woman and she will call.   In fact, women call and text guys they like day and night.  This is a commonplace experience for my students.

 

Another example is talking too much.  Many dating instructors preach controlling the conversation with a woman by talking endlessly, whether you use rehearsed routines or not. 

 

Again, wrong-headed thinking. 

 

Ultimately, a woman wants to qualify herself to a man.  She does not want a man qualifying himself to her, which is what most guys do when they talk too much. 

Women love talking about themselves.  Why should we take that away from them?  Shut up and listen.  Some of the hottest interactions I’ve had with women have been hour-long conversations with me saying only five words.  It’s an easy way to build sexual chemistry.

 

Guys want a clear A-B-C roadmap for success with women, but I’m going to be in your face with this… it doesn’t work like that.  There is no formula for interacting or communicating with women.  Women are emotional beings.  They cannot be categorized into anyone’s “formula”.

 

But A-B-C thinking is what’s making the bankrolls of many dating instructors fat—attempting to teach guys that you can control each and every situation with either the right line or the perfect routine.

 

The reality is, we don’t have absolute control of anything.  The way to make things happen is to let things happen. 

 

Let it happen.